Facebook doesn't cause problems in a relationship; it brings to light problems that already exist.
I often hear people say, "Facebook ruins relationships". No,People ruin relationships.
While Facebook gives us an easy, casual way to get in touch with people, it doesn't make our choices for us. We need to take responsibility for our actions. We still decide what defines cheating in our relationships, and whether or not we will cross that line. We still decide how much attention we should pay to other people, and how much attention we are comfortable receiving. When I hear people blame Facebook, strip clubs, or anything else for the problems in their marriage, it reminds me of what is (in my opinion) one of the worst personality flaws: the inability to admit the truth.
If your goal is to brush things under the rug and pretend everything in your relationship is fine, then by all means stay off Facebook. Cancel girls' night out. Stay away from any bachelor parties. Monitor each other's internet use, and check each other's phone. You know, just in case.
But if your goal is to have a solid, healthy relationship, one that is based on trust and commitment, recognize that any fears you have about Facebook in your relationship are deeper issues that should be worked through in counseling.
I've heard several people say that infidelity in their marriages ultimately served to strengthen the marriage. Clearly it was not the act of infidelity that improved the relationship, but the resulting attention paid to the relationship after the affair. Rather than wait or hope your fears never materialize, confront these fears early on. In a healthy relationship, you won't have to spend your time worrying about what your partner will do. And you won't worry that you'll be tempted to stray, either. You'll trust each other. You'll trust yourself.
Facebook is not the problem. Figure out what is, and work through it together.
Facebook does make it easier to get in contact with that ex lover, that girl/guy you had a crush on in high school. But as stated in the article, it's up to you if you go into it.
If your relationship is in a dip and you get a tempting request on Facebook, it can be hard to resist.
If your relationship is in a dip and you get a tempting request on Facebook, it can be hard to resist.
Trust Yourself, Trust each Other.
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this is for girls who usually get jealous with their boyfriend because of Facebook. Always remember it is not the social media. The problem is in the two of you..
social media is our way to communicate with our long lost family, friends, neighbors, classmates and even exes, but we should also be responsible enough for the consequences that we may encounter as long as yo do not step the dignity of others.
I guess Facebook, is one way of knowing if your boyfriend or girlfriend is cheating on you. Its just my opinion, nothing more nothing less.
@maryjoycancio it's your idea, but before you conclude you should know first who cheat in the first place, is it your boyfriend or girlfriend or the third party itself??? right??? anyway facebook is just our way to communicate and express our feelings..
Facebook is only website that connects people. So individual should he responsible for using it. The fact that it brings connection, communication was involve. Then there it is, it can ruin or build a relationship. :)
When it comes to relationships, remaining faithful is never an option but a priority. Loyalty is everything.
"Facebook ruins relationships". No,People ruin relationships. Those people behind that Facebook or the person using it... :)
i don't believe that facebook ruins a relationship...It is the person who manipulate it. Maybe others. We know that there are cases that people created or develop their relationship in facebook. Am i right????
yes your right Mandy, remaining FAITHFUL is always priority not an OPTION..
Everything has its reasons for a glance either it ruins or adds vigor to the relationship with yourself, lovers or other people around you. It depends on how you carry it and bear with it. Everything has a common good, but abusive result to destruction.
yeah right! amazing!
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